Rythm is a platform that is on a mission to strengthen the vulva-mind-spirit connection. We want to normalize a world where humans with vulvas have a better connection with their bodies, parts, and partners. For our blog series “Humans of Rythm,” we interview founders, thought leaders, and experts in the sexual wellness space and share their responses with you.
Tilly Storm is a holistic sex and intimacy coach and host of the podcast, The Multiorgasmic Mama, since 2017. She’s been recognized as one of the top 20 sex coaches in the world by the Coach Foundation and her podcast has reached over 230,000 listeners. If a lack of confidence, low libido, guilt, or shame around your sexuality are the cause of your bedroom woes, you’ll love Tilly! She’s the world’s leading expert in helping moms experience epic sex and pleasure in the bedroom and beyond.
As a certified sex and intimacy coach, Tilly uses deep transformational tools and techniques based in somatic experiencing and embodiment practices to help high-achieving women want to want sex, have better orgasms, and experience more intimacy with their partner.
Read below to learn more about our favorite multiorgasmic mama and Taurus, Tilly Storm. We admire her rythm and we think you will too!
Where were you born, where did you grow up, and how was sex (the act) perceived in your culture/household?
Like most people around the world, I grew up in a home where the only thing I learned about pleasure was that it was for someone else. I was born and raised in a small town outside of New Orleans, LA in a Southern Baptist home where I was taught that sex was something you only did when you were married to make babies.
What’s a funny or embarrassing memory you have from when learning about or experiencing sex?
When I was 6 years old, I remember my parents fussing at me because I walked out of the bathroom with a towel around me instead of being fully dressed. This was the moment that I ‘took on’ the story that my body was inherently wrong and something to be ashamed of.
Have you ever walked in on a family member ‘doing the deed’? Is there a funny, or interesting story you can share with us about your experience? How old were you when this happened?
I wasn’t sure that my parents ever were intimate until I walked in on them when I was about 17 years old. They didn’t know that I had walked in on them and I still don’t think they know to this day!
What is your profession and why did you choose to pursue it?
I’m a sex and intimacy coach for high-achieving women who lack desire and want to feel sexy again. I choose this profession after witnessing many women lose interest in sex after having a baby.
I worked at a birth center as a doula and midwife apprentice and it was astonishing to see just how many women totally lost their mojo after having kids! I never struggled with lack of sexual desire myself, but I did struggle with negative conditioning around my body and sexuality – that showed up as only being able to orgasm in one way, being afraid to try new things, and feeling uncomfortable in my body. Ultimately, tantra training and learning the jade egg practice helped me resolve my personal hangups with sex and body image. After my own journey of healing my relationship with my body and sexuality, I knew that helping women get their mojo back was my jam.
What about your industry surprised you when you were first getting started? What is something about your industry that might surprise those who are not in your line of work?
Currently, BDSM, kink, polyamory, and gender exploration are really hot topics in my industry. However, I think it’s interesting to note that this isn’t the path to ‘turn-on’ and pleasure for most women. Some of them, yes – and that’s awesome! But, it turns out, most women are still heterosexual and are more sensual and energetic and turned on in more subtle ways. Sex coaches aren’t just for people who want to explore BDSM, kink, alternative relationship styles, or gender. They’re for hetero people who just want to have a great sex life and/or still raise a family too.
What do you wish your caregiver(s) or guardian(s) had told you about pleasure, relationships, and the female body when you were growing up?
Honestly, I’m glad my parents didn’t tell me anything about pleasure because I don’t think they would’ve been reliable sources! However, it would have been amazing to have had a pleasure education in my mid-teen years, to have learned about my body and sexuality in more than a “here’s how to not have a baby or get an STI” way. I’m lucky to have discovered and experienced all the different types of orgasms on my own simply because I’m a curious person who likes to adventure and explore new realms. Though sadly, most people don’t even know what’s possible or even know how to research and explore themselves!
What was something you were surprised to learn about your body, relationship with self, and relationship with your vulva in the past decade? How has it changed?
I was surprised at how women really can (myself included) have at least 8 different types of orgasms! Even though Cosmo is always putting out their latest piece on how the g-spot may not even be real, or vaginal orgasms aren’t possible, I know better, and so do my clients! I was also surprised to learn that sex and relationships really are LEARNED skills, not something you just know how to do and are good at without trying. It really does take some effort, time, and attention to get good at both.
When do you feel the most empowered and alive?
I feel the most empowered and alive when I’ve been doing my jade egg practices at least 3-4 times a week and doing regular sex magic manifestation rituals! My life flows so much more easily when I stay committed to cultivating my sexual energy and channeling it where I desire it to go.
What is something non-sexual that brings you immense pleasure?
My greatest non-sexual pleasures are going to the beach near where I live, surfing in Costa Rica, and traveling all over the world with my awesome kids and partner.
What can a partner do to turn you on in and out of the bedroom?
In the bedroom, I get really hot for ass grabs and deep, intimately connected sex with eye gazing involved. Out of the bedroom, I get really hot when my man takes a stand for my kids in a big way, or when he blindfolds me, puts me in the car, and drives me to the concert venue to see one of my favorite bands.
How do you find your rythm in connecting with your body and self? What wisdom can you impart on us regarding lessons you’ve learned along the way to finding your rythm?
The body is a portal to the sacred and the sexy – not just the sexy. It already has all of the answers you are seeking. Learn to listen, and you’ll have everything you want! Every morning, I connect with my body to see what blocks are in the way of pleasure and joy, and whatever I’m feeling, I release through my nervous system release techniques. When you allow yourself to feel what you’re feeling in the body, let it flow through, and fill up with pleasure, you become unstoppable.
What is your favorite song you are jamming out to these days?
What’s your go-to song to get in the mood? Or, what song helps you find your ‘sensual rythm’?
What is your favorite sexual wellness product that you can’t live without?
My 100% nephrite jade egg that I also sell on my website.
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Gillian ‘Gigi’ Singer, MPH
American Board Certified Sexologist, Sexuality Educator, and Sex Ed Content Specialist